Jill Natalia - ESFJ, SDG 16 & 17
đ» Connect: https://www.jillnatalia.co.nz/
đ RedTent: https://www.redtentaotearoa.co.nz/
đLocation: Tai Tapu, Christchurch, New Zealand
Personality Type: ESFJ (previously ENFJ)
Favourite SDGs: #16 Peace, Justice & Strong Institutions | #17 Partnerships for the Goals
đ ROOTS, LOSS & THE SHIFT FROM LEADING TO LISTENING
There was a moment that changed everything for Jill.
A before and an after.
The sudden loss of her husband cracked her open and rearranged her sense of capacity, urgency and values. It reshaped what mattered⊠and who she wanted to be.
She had spent years being the protagonist. The doer. The leader standing on stages in front of hundreds. The one who organised everything, held everything and tried to meet everyoneâs expectations. But grief changed the architecture of her life.
Now she no longer chases empire-building.
She chooses presence. One-on-one connection. Real transformation. And supporting others rather than being the one in front.
Her compass became quieter⊠steadier⊠more rooted in truth.
đ§ ADAPTABILITY, INTEGRITY & THE MOMENT SHE LET GO OF PEOPLE-PLEASING
Thereâs a story Jill tells about a group tour and someone complaining about the lamb being âtoo saltyâ.
It sparked an inner lightning bolt.
She realised she could not manage anybodyâs expectations anymore.
Not their judgments, reactions, or the stories they choose to fixate on.
That moment became a lifelong lesson.
Integrity over people-pleasing.
Truth over perfection.
Presence over performance.
She still supports, cares, holds space⊠but she no longer carries the emotional backpack of trying to make everyone happy. Itâs liberating. Itâs sustainable. And itâs deeply ESFJ in maturity, grounded practicality meeting honest self-awareness.
đ WHÄNAU, CYCLES & CREATING SPACES WHERE PEOPLE CAN BE THEMSELVES
Jill has built her world around belonging, not the concept, but the practice.
She creates circles where women can arrive exactly as they are. No networking agenda. No forced vulnerability. No performative growth. Just humans showing up in their truth, in whatever phase, cycle or emotional season theyâre in.
In her work, even admin meetings start with a cycle check-in:
Where is your energy?
What do you need today?
Are you intuitive? Drained? Focused? Overwhelmed? Cold? Tender? Hungry?
What feels doable? What feels kind?
In Jillâs world, the menstrual cycle is not taboo.
Itâs data.
Itâs wisdom.
Itâs a compass for productivity, rest, intuition and expression.
This is what safety looks like when itâs real and embodied.
đż MOTHERHOOD, NEURODIVERGENCE & RAISING A SON WHO LIVES BETWEEN WORLDS
Jillâs youngest son is 12. Autistic, ADHD and living with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) . It is a term she dislikes, but one that reflects his nervous system living in a near-constant state of fight-or-flight after losing his dad so young.
He doesnât talk much.
So she listens to the unsaid.
He doesnât move at the pace of the world.
So she slows the world around him.
He doesnât fit the socially approved template of childhood.
So she throws away the template.
Parenting him requires presence, judgement-free space, flexibility and deep attunement. Those are qualities she now brings to every client, every circle, every woman who walks through her doors.
Her motherhood sharpened her intuition⊠and softened her edges.
Both became gifts she shares widely.
đ„ BUILDING STRONGER INSTITUTIONS BY MAKING THEM MORE HUMAN
Jill has spent decades working with humans in transition:
new mums, facilitators, women rebuilding their sense of worth, teams seeking connection, and communities yearning for spaces that feel safe and real.
She sees the patterns:
People arenât failing.
Systems are failing them.
She works at the intersection of psychology, intuition, cycles, trauma-awareness and practical support. Sheâs not an interventionist. She doesnât advise. She witnesses. She reflects. She helps people reconnect with their own inner authority.
What is her ESFJ gift? Restoring safety, connection and belonging.
âš RED TENT - THE MOVEMENT SHE STARTED BECAUSE SHE NEEDED IT
Twelve years ago, postpartum and lonely, Jill started a Red Tent in Australia - with a two-week-old baby strapped to her. She built what she needed: community, support, women who could witness each other without judgment.
Since then, her Red Tent has evolved into an intergenerational, intuitive, monthly sanctuary.
No taboo topics.
No hierarchy.
No pretending.
Just women sharing, grieving, learning and remembering the power they hold.
Some arrive strong.
Some arrive broken.
Some arrive for the first time with their 14-year-old daughter speaking on their behalf because they cannot yet speak through their own pain.
And Jill has watched these same women riseâŠ
Become business ownersâŠ
LeadersâŠ
CreatorsâŠ
Fully expressed humans.
The tent is a portal.
The community is the medicine.
Belonging is the transformation.
đ DREAMWORK: LETTERS FROM HOME
One of Jillâs rare gifts is dreamwork, not through symbolism dictionaries, but through depth psychology.
Dreams, she believes, are âletters from homeâ⊠messages from the higher self revealing what we already know but arenât yet conscious of.
Clients send her voice notes every morning describing dreams that serve as maps of their inner landscape, clarifying where they are, what theyâre grieving, what theyâre moving toward, and what theyâre resisting.
She sees patterns long before they appear in real life. She hears truth between symbols. And she trusts the psycheâs timing more than the egoâs urgency.
đż EARTH MEDICINE, CACAO & CHOOSING THE SMALL, GENTLE HINGES
Jillâs daily ritual includes cacao - often prepared lovingly by her partner, with lionâs mane, reishi, cordyceps and other earth-based medicines. To her, these arenât trends. Theyâre teachers. Theyâre grounding forces. Theyâre ancient allies.
She believes in intuition over protocols.
Rest over hustle.
Small hinges that swing big doors, subtle shifts that change everything without attacking the nervous system.
One client at a time.
One cycle at a time.
One grounded breath at a time.
đ GRIEF, PRESENCE & THE GIFT OF BEING A SACRED WITNESS
Grief changed Jill.
It stripped away what didnât matter⊠and illuminated what did.
She says the hardest part of grief is the loneliness. It is when people being too afraid to say the name of the person who died, too awkward to show up, too unsure to ask or listen.
What grieving people really need:
Not advice.
Not solutions.
Presence. Voice notes. Stories. Warmth. Truth.
Her belief that our loved ones never âleaveâ, that energy cannot die and that communication continues through dreams, signs and synchronicities - is something she lives daily.
She has delivered the eulogies of her father, uncle and husband.
She carries them.
Speaks to them.
Laughs with them in her dreams.
And she helps others find meaning and dignity in their own grief too.
đ€ AUTHENTICITY AS A WAY OF LIFE
Jill knows instantly when she isnât being authentic.
Her body tells her. Her jaw tightens. Her whole system recoils.
So she refuses to shrink, perform or pretend- even in small talk at the supermarket. She speaks plainly. Honestly. Sometimes mischievously. Always truthfully.
She is, in her words, a sacred witness, someone who sees people clearly and holds space without agenda.
đ WHAT SHE HOPES TO LEAVE BEHIND
When asked what she wants people to say when sheâs gone, Jill usually returns to one thing:
That her children felt free to be who they truly are.
That they felt loved.
Supported.
Encouraged to live authentically.
She sends them a âWednesday Waffleâ every week- a video diary full of unfiltered thoughts, stories and love. No lighting. No scripting. Just truth.
đ¶ HARMONISING WITH LIFE
If she had 30 minutes a day for 30 days, Jill would spend it learning to harmonise with her partner - literally.
Heâs a trained singer, and she wants to blend her voice with his. Symbolically, itâs perfect. Harmony is what she offers everyone she meets.
Balance. Attunement. Presence. Resonance.
âš THE HEART OF IT ALL
Jill is a builder of safe spaces.
A keeper of cycles, guide for the grieving, witness for the rising.
A woman who learned through loss how to choose authenticity, belonging and presence above everything else.
Her work strengthens communities.
Her circles create partnership.
Her leadership creates emotional safety, the foundation of true peace and strong institutions.
She embodies SDG 16 and 17 every single day.