Expertise eats theory for breakfast…
Growth doesn’t come from moderation… at least not for me.
I’ve noticed a pattern in myself: when I try something new, I go all in. 100% raw vegan. 100% natural fibers in my wardrobe. Moving from a three-bedroom house straight into a van.
This kind of intensity feels extreme at first.
But here’s what I’ve learned: extremes aren’t the destination. They’re my classroom. My school of life.
Take the van example. I fell in love with tiny homes - but shrinking from a three-bedroom straight to a tiny house felt off. So, I experimented with the extreme version and jumped into van life for 2 years. My theory: moving into a tiny home after van life would feel spacious, because I knew exactly what I really needed. Clarity about every item, every routine, every habit.
In hindsight, committing to a van over a home at first was reducing financial risk. Much easier to sell a vehicle than a home...
Or food. I went 100% raw vegan for a while. The health benefits were insane, but I realized I also love hosting and cooking for others. By allowing myself to go to 80%, I could keep health AND social connections - without losing the lessons from the extremes.
Even my wardrobe followed the pattern. I wanted 100% natural fibers. But let’s be honest - yoga pants, winter jackets, business pants - they just work better with some synthetics. The swing back to 80% wasn’t failure. I earned this wisdom.
You might think intensity is reckless. You might worry that going all in makes you irresponsible, extreme, or immature. You might fear losing comfort, status, reputation, or identity. I get it. I’ve been there. Many times.
Here’s the thing I’ve discovered: if you go all in, you might lose some comfort. But - I promise that you gain perspective and insight that last you a lifetime. You see edges that others haven’t dared to explore. You learn faster. You gain confidence grounded in lived experience. The calm, quiet, stoic peace you ooze when you KNOW.
That’s why my clients get faster results. Because I’ve gone first. I can ask the tough questions, spot blind spots, and help them challenge their own norms. And challenging norms is exactly how you move above average.
May I challenge you to be extreme?
Pick one area of your life where you feel restricted, frustrated, or trapped. Ask yourself: What bugs me the most here?
Then go 100%. Just for a month, it is an experiment.
Social obligations drain your energy ot budget? Say no to everything for a month. (Blame me if you must 😜) Only do the hell yes things.
Want to get a sharper brain? Announce a month of zero alcohol instead of negotiating how many beers you will have at every outing.
Feeling stuck in your relationship? Pretend they only have 4 more weeks to live and go all in on dating, kind language and caring actions towards your spouse.
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s clarity. Full-bodied experience. Insight that sticks.
Extremes teach your edges. Reflection turns it into maturity. And that’s how you step into your full potential - without apology.
Ps: If you want more examples and 100% stories - My book is out there for ya to enjoy and full of decision making tools to use.